For years I told myself that I would never change. I didn’t want to. I loved the person I was and the people I surrounded myself with. But now that I’m in the middle of the biggest transition of my life, I have realized that without me even trying, I am completely different than the person I used to be. When I realized this, I wasn’t sure if I was happy with it or not. I began to dig deep and ask myself where this change came from. And I came to the obvious conclusion that no matter what a person does, who they are now will not be who they are in ‘x’ amount of years.
I looked around myself and saw the change in others. Goodie-goods turned to pot-smokers, and partiers turned to followers of God. Seriously I’ve seen some of the most drastic changes from the most unsuspecting people. Of course, these changes are voluntary; People decide they want to turn their life in a different direction. This happens usually after some traumatic or impactful life event, however, it doesn’t happen too often. People are lazy and stubborn and are very unlikely to knowingly change their lifestyle, even if they experience something worthy of changing their life.
So then I looked at myself, I mean really looked at myself. My life hasn’t changed dramatically from four years ago. I didn’t wake up and decide to find a new path to walk one day. But very gradually, everything changed. The people that I have trusted with my friendship with have changed, and so has the way I go about considering someone new to be my friend. I’m open to new things, but very specific with my expectations. I feel more independent as each day goes by, as I get closer to moving out of my home. I genuinely don’t care too much about people’s feelings or opinions anymore unless they are a good friend. Then I finally understood.
We don’t change ourselves, time changes us. Time is inevitable, and so is the change that it forces us to undergo. It can not be avoided, no matter how hard you try. Every single one of your past experiences will have an effect on every decision you make, friendship you form, place you go, dream you pursue, etc.. I am in the middle of one of the biggest changes I’ll ever go through in my entire life. Everything feels like a new experience and it has had an enormous result on the way I think. Adjusting to college life is going to be like changing my writing style. But I’m not afraid of it. I’m more than ready.
I’m ready for all the change I can handle.
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My graduation party is this week, and to prepare for it my mother has required me to clean every part of my house, including all the unused corners and dust-collecting shelf ornaments. As I was re-organizing my room to satisfy the expectations of my mom, I came across all of the objects I kept for sentimental value. I found two yearbooks with scribbles from my classmates. I got to reminisce on the friendships that I used to have, and how much things have changed since freshman year. I found all my rocks and coins ($14 worth), and even an old essay I wrote on Neil Armstrong that I got a perfect grade on. I dusted off all of my trophies that I have accumulated throughout my athletic career. It took me hours to go through it all and I couldn’t understand why as a child I would keep all of this crap.
Then I remembered that it wasn’t crap. At one point those trophies, those coins and rocks, and those yearbooks used to be my treasure. I would have protected those things with my life. They still meant a lot to me as I found it all today. It was as if when I was younger I stockpiled these things to preserve my childhood. I never wanted to forget the times I had with the people I loved or lose the things I worked so hard to collect. Now I’m about to leave for college and it all hit me. So what did I do?
I threw most of it away.
I’m not going to forget all the great times I had. What made them great is what makes them memorable for a lifetime. I don’t need a physical object to represent a memory. My childhood stockpile was a reminder and a farewell. It reminded me of everything I accomplished, and that I should be proud. It provided me with reasons to smile if I ever feel upset. But also, it needed to go so that I could go. It will always be with me if i ever need it.
We all possess object with extraordinary sentimental value. We often only acknowledge these things if we are cleaning the house or showing a visitor. These objects can lift you up during your darkest days, or they can anchor you to the bottom of the sea. Sometimes, no matter how incredible the view is, you have to lift the anchor and move on.
Some decisions in life are easy, like whether or not to brush your teeth in the morning or if you want to drive to work or take the bus. But we often find ourselves in situations where we can’t put one option over another. We almost feel stuck in this stressful limbo in which we must pick the “right” choice. These inner conflicts are constantly occurring within your head. Your brain processes all the information you receive, and categorizes it in a way where it can be easily accessed subconsciously. You may not directly be thinking about what to eat for dinner tomorrow but it has already crossed your mind without you knowing. But I’m talking about a bigger picture here.
Everyone has thought about whether or not they want to continue their current job, end a relationship, change majors, etc. You could spend days listing the pros and cons on every big decision in your life and never reach a clean-cut answer. For example, I was stuck for months trying to decide on which college to attend. I could stay close to home and receive a great education, go far away on an incredible scholarship with almost no school fees to pay, or even play football on a collegiate playing field. Originally, the financial standpoint was the most important factor. How could I get a college education for the least amount of money? Luckily, I abandoned that state of mind and focused on one thing alone: Which choice would make me the happiest?
You will feel stuck at many points in your life. You will have a thousand different influences on your decisions and you won’t even know it. You will never please everyone, but you can do what will make you the happiest. That’s the one thing you will always have control over. Also, do not be afraid to make a decision that you don’t believe is entirely the right one. A wrong choice is better than making no choice at all. Have the courage to move forward; someone who is unable to pick will never get anywhere at all.
“If you have a chance to be happy, you have to fight for it, so later you have no regrets.” – Ilona Andrews
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.“- Gautama Buddha
What is time? It’s an easy concept to understand but how do you actually describe it? Time is a man-made idea. But it cannot be manufactured. It’s a mythical unit of measurement that controls every aspect of our lives, whether we know it or not. Imagine how much you’ve missed out on in life because of the most annoying excuse “I don’t have time.” Time dictates when we eat, when we sleep, when we do just about anything.
Time is currency.
It’s the most valuable currency we have and it’s non-transferable. If you had all the time in the world, you could do just about anything. Time allows you to accomplish your goals, heal from your wounds (both physical and mental), and create relationships. The thing is, even if you lived until 147, you still wouldn’t have enough time for everything you wanted to do. But how? 147 years is a long time and most people would probably look back and think they did pretty well. Unfortunately, it’s not always about the length of time you have that determines how well you spent your time.
On any given day just try to list everything you would need to do and want to do. Obviously you aren’t going to be able to do all of those things, no matter how badly you want to. You just don’t have enough time. Anything you want to do, limits you from doing something else you want to do. You see, time is a day-by-day currency. Every day you are allotted 24 hours to satisfy your needs and fulfill your wants. Nothing will ever change that number. No human invention will increase the length of a day. One might increase the human lifespan to 147 years but what you wanted to do at age 24 might be difficult to accomplish at age 129.
All I’m trying to say is your time is limited, no matter how hard you attempt to believe otherwise. Spend it wisely, on things that matter to you. Spend less time laying down, scrolling through Vine and spend more creating memories that you wish you had at age 147. And to whoever has spent their time reading this post, I hope it wasn’t a waste.
We made it.
Today was the last day of school for me; senior year has finally come to an end. I learned so much in the past four years. I’ll rarely use many of these things such as finding the volume of a shape revolved around the x-axis or determining the force acting upon a high speed electron in a magnetic field. But I did learn an incredible amount of things that I will use for the rest of my life, and almost none regard academics.
Don’t do what makes others happy, do what makes you happy. Unless of course what makes you happy, also makes others happy. But that is often not the case. People are difficult, and some are extremely manipulative. They want you to do whatever is going to benefit them the most. For a lot of decisions in life you are going to want feedback from others, but there are some decisions that just require you to actually listen to your gut. Sometimes it’s the only thing that knows what’s best for you.
Let others have their moment, even when you wish it was yours. My biggest pet peeve throughout school was when somebody lost some kind of competition, and refused to be happy for the person that won simply because they were bitter that they had lost. It’s okay to be a little disappointed, but celebrate for someone else. A simple “congratulations” or “great job” really does mean a lot to someone, and shows incredible integrity and character.
Not all friendships last. As we grow up, we make an incredible number of relationships with all sorts of people. We also forget about many of these, or they simple fade away and that person becomes a stranger again. It’s up to you to determine how strong and long-lasting you want a friendship to be. Don’t expect it to just always be there.
Enjoy the little things. Cliché? Absolutely. But hey, this is one of the greatest habits to have. You get to appreciate life so much more if appreciate all the small things that happen. These things include: when Pandora is on point, favors by a friend, a beautiful day after a stormy one, finding money you didn’t know you had, or just by making somebody genuinely laugh or be happy.
Life is all about perspective. When you are having a horrible day, find a reason to smile. When you feel like you don’t know anything, focus on what you do know. You can either dwell on the situation you’re in, or you can accept it and move on and be happy. Either way, you’ll still be in that situation.
These are things that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. They help me maintain my optimistic lifestyle, and allow me to be a source of positive energy for others. To the educational system that guided me to these things, thank you.
The only thing that people have been talking about during the entire month of May is college. People want to know where you’re going. People want to know what you’re majoring in. People want to know when your graduation party is so they can visit and tell you how much they’ll miss you. You eventually develop an automated answer to all of these questions, and display no emotion whatsoever while reciting them. But deep down, this is an emotional time. After high school, you may not see any of the countless idiots from your class ever again. You’ll never be forced to set foot in that wretched place they call a school ever again. You get to move on, start fresh. OR, you may lose touch with the people you were closest with. You may never walk through the halls of the building that you had so much pride for. You have to leave everything behind, start over. It’s a matter of perspective. Some people are dying to leave and some are wishing time hadn’t gone by so fast. But how are you supposed to feel?
Don’t spend to much time worrying about what’s going to happen in three months. No matter how much you fantasize how incredible college is going to be, time won’t move any faster. And don’t be too upset that high school is over, either. You probably made some unforgettable memories, and no matter how much time passes those memories will still be there for you to go back to. My best advice for a recent graduate: Enjoy one of the last summers you could ever have with the people you love.
Seriously though, has it hit anyone yet that we don’t get summers off for the rest of our life? I’m going to be an engineer and I am fully aware that this is my second-to-last summer ever. I don’t care about college right now, and I’ll miss high school, but I’m done with it. I’m going to spend this summer doing everything I haven’t had the chance to do yet in my life. I’m going to hang out with as many people as I can, and I’m going to be with my closest friends as much as possible. I’m going to ensure that when I’m 50 years old I can look back and say I did everything I could before my professional life started. Nothing will be taken for granted.
This summer is about you. It’s a giant goodbye and you get to dictate how sincere it is. The countdown to adulthood is almost up and your time is more valuable than ever. Cherish every second.